Product Education

Product Education

1. How to Choose the Right Dildo Size

Check the dildo’s insertable length and diameter, not only its total length. Diameter often affects comfort more than length, so beginners may prefer something slim, smooth and slightly flexible.

Consider how it will be used. A curved shape may suit targeted internal stimulation, while harness use requires a compatible base. Any dildo used anally must have a wide, flared base. Starting smaller allows you to explore comfortably—you can always increase the size later.


2. Harnesses Explained: Briefs, Straps and Strapless Designs

Brief-style harnesses resemble underwear. They are comfortable and simple to use, although sizing may be less adjustable.

Strap-style harnesses usually provide a firmer, more adjustable fit and greater control. They may take slightly longer to put on and position correctly.

Strapless strap-ons are double-ended toys designed to be held internally by the wearing partner. Despite the name, they may still require a harness for extra stability and will not feel completely hands-free for everyone.


3. What Does “Harness-Compatible” Actually Mean?

A harness-compatible dildo has a secure base that can sit behind an O-ring or harness plate. Most have a wide, flared base that prevents the toy from slipping through during use.

Compatibility is not universal. Check the dildo’s shaft diameter against the harness’s O-ring size, as well as the shape and width of its base. Some harnesses use specialised attachment systems rather than standard O-rings.


4. Bullet, Wand or Suction Toy: Which Is Right for You?

A bullet vibrator provides focused stimulation in a small, discreet design. It suits beginners, travel and partnered use.

A wand vibrator offers broader, usually stronger external stimulation. It may suit people who prefer powerful or less pinpointed sensations.

A suction toy uses air-pulse technology around the clitoris. It provides concentrated stimulation without the same type of direct vibration.

The right choice depends on whether you prefer gentle, powerful, broad or highly focused sensations.

5. Water-Based vs Silicone Lubricant

Water-based lubricant is the most versatile option. It is compatible with condoms and most sex-toy materials, washes away easily and is suitable for vaginal or anal use. However, it may dry out sooner and require reapplication.

Silicone lubricant lasts longer and remains slippery in water. It can be useful for longer sessions or anal play, but it may damage some silicone toys. Always check the toy’s instructions before combining the two.


6. Which Lubes Are Safe With Silicone Toys?

Water-based lubricant is generally the safest choice for silicone toys. It is easy to clean and is unlikely to affect the toy’s surface. Check out our Girls Get Off Water-based lube!

Some high-quality silicone toys are compatible with certain silicone lubricants, but this varies between products. Check both manufacturers’ instructions before use. If compatibility is unclear, use water-based lubricant. Stop using any combination that makes the toy sticky, swollen or changes its texture.


7. Sex-Toy Materials Explained

  • Silicone: Soft or firm, non-porous and easy to clean when it is genuine, quality silicone.

  • ABS plastic: Smooth, firm and non-porous while its surface remains undamaged.

  • Borosilicate glass: Firm, non-porous and suitable for temperature play when used as directed. Inspect it for chips or cracks.

  • Stainless steel: Durable, firm, non-porous and easy to clean.

  • TPE, TPR, PVC and jelly materials: Usually porous and more difficult to sanitise completely. They can also break down over time.

Check the exact material rather than relying only on terms such as “body-safe” or “skin-safe.”


8. Beginner Toys That Aren’t Intimidating

Beginner-friendly options include compact bullet vibrators, small external vibrators, slim silicone dildos, gentle suction toys and adjustable harness sets with modestly sized dildos.

Look for simple controls, manageable dimensions and a smooth shape rather than choosing the strongest or most advanced product. External toys are often a comfortable starting point because they do not require penetration.


9. How to Introduce Toys Into a Relationship

Discuss the idea away from the bedroom, without presenting the toy as a replacement for your partner. Explain what you are curious about and invite them to share their feelings, interests and boundaries.

Choose the toy together if possible. During use, begin slowly, communicate and allow either partner to pause or stop. Introducing a toy should feel like shared exploration—not pressure or criticism.


10. How to Make Your Strap-On Feel More Secure

Position the harness low and snug around the hips, then tighten each strap evenly. It should remain stable without pinching, restricting movement or causing numbness.

Use an O-ring that fits closely around the dildo’s shaft and ensure the base sits flat against the harness. A dildo that is too heavy or an O-ring that is too large may cause unwanted movement. Practise wearing and moving in the harness before sex so you can make adjustments comfortably.


11. Can Two People Share the Same Sex Toy?

Yes, but hygiene matters. Non-porous toys can be shared when properly cleaned according to their care instructions. Place a fresh condom over the toy and replace it between partners or body parts.

Never move a toy from the anus to the vagina without thoroughly cleaning it and changing the condom. Porous toys are harder to sanitise completely, so keeping them for individual use is generally safer.

Safety guidance: NSW Health—Sex toys, NSW Health—Lube and Healthdirect Australia—Safe sex.